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Cake day: June 15th, 2023

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  • A poly group (also known as a polycule) is a network of polyamorous people’s relationships. Polyamory, in case you’re unaware, is the practice of having multiple romantic or sexual partners at the same time, in contrast to monogamy.

    If you were polyamorous and wanted to graph out your relationships, you could do it a few different ways. For example:

    • Just you and your partners. If any of your partners are also in relationships with each other, you’d draw lines between them as well.

    • Extend an extra level and include all of your partners’ partners (known as metamours), again connecting any pair on the graph who are partners.

    • Extend that further and include all of your partners’ partners’ partners (no specific term for this as far as I know). This would likely include people you don’t personally know, and it would be difficult to build a complete graph of all their relationships.

    Etc.


  • I see this as kind of like the “loudness war” in radio.

    It’s not a conspiracy or anything, it’s just the networks and producers adapting (correctly) to how people actually watch/listen to stuff.

    Audiophiles can complain all they want about low dynamic range, but if you’re listening to radio in a noisy environment (like a car), high dynamic range is actually fucking awful.

    Similarly, there’s nothing inherently wrong with watching a show when you can’t give it your full attention. Sometimes I watch TV while I’m doing chores, or even during my workday. You know what’s great for that? Those stupid competition shows where they narrate everything on screen, and have five instant replays plus recaps after ad breaks. I never feel like I’m missing anything even if I ignore 80% of the show. I’d never sit down and really watch this stuff though. My brain would rot. It’s just a step above white noise.













  • Hmm, maybe I’m thinking more iPhone 3G era than original iPhone era? I recall a time when there weren’t many apps yet and you could put out anything marginally-functional for 99¢ on the app store and get some quick cash from it. I don’t remember $10-20 being the norm but maybe that was before I was onboard.

    I’ve certainly been burned by apps either breaking with iOS updates or no longer being available to download on the App Store (so you could keep using them, but only on existing devices that already had them installed).



  • Also, people’s goals change and “secure” means something different.

    When I was making half as much as I am now, I felt fairly secure. I could pay my rent, I had no credit card debt, and I had a few months’ worth of savings. Money was not a day-to-day worry. Most of my peers were in debt and/or living paycheck-to-paycheck so I felt like I was living large.

    Now I am objectively more secure but I feel less secure because I am thinking about retirement, childcare, college funds, and elder care. I have nowhere near enough savings to retire in the foreseeable future. I honestly don’t know if I’ll ever get there.