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Cake day: July 24th, 2023

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  • Oh of course, 100% agreed you can respond like that, and I’d chuckle and say thanks if it were me. Could also be a great way to bring levity to a situation that’s really difficult for some.

    Also just want to add, I’m from Spain and it’s completely normal to say here. Definitely not an American thing.


  • I don’t think it’s a flex. It’s a major thing happening in their lives, so it comes up in conversations about what’s going on in life…

    My wife and I will never have kids, but we know it’s a huge deal to those who do, and that once most people make the decision to try, it’s the most important thing on their mind and plan for their future. So yeah, if you ask someone who is spending 80% of their time preparing for a family “what’s up?” I think it is 1000% normal and valid for them to say trying and prepping for a baby.

    As it isn’t an issue of bias or prejudice or personal harm, if someone is so squeamish and prude that they can’t let a friend (or hell, a nice stranger) give them a significant life update, they should get over it or pretend.










  • Is Anyone else experiencing an issue where for the last 6 days, the Scaled view of all instances hasn’t been updated and is only showing the same posts? Many with only one upvote and no comments. A post of a song called Polonaise No. 2 and a news story about neurodivergent kids helping each other are always at the top (as posts I remember off the top of my head) and the others have been the same too. Might this be an instance issue or am I the only one experiencing it? And is there a quick solve in either case? Thanks so much!




  • Learn only to change the topic if the previous one has concluded naturally or there’s a silence long enough to make a new question (eg, you seen that new movie?) seem like less of a non sequitur and more of an invitation to discuss something else common. Beyond that, it’s just about finding friends with diverse interests who are down for wide-ranging conversations.

    Also, try forcing yourself to value some small talk and not just think to yourself “ahhhh this is pointless and/or I already know where it’s going!” Cuz hey, if someone is a friend, I’m willing to hear what they think about the weather, and maybe they’ll surprise you once in a while. Recognize it as something others are genuinely looking for and that you can provide (and come to enjoy!) rather than a burden or annoyance you have to go through, a sorta fake it to make it thing for us folks whose brains are go go go.