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  • I try to rationalise that the wording itself is not important to me and I can’t understand why would it be important to them, why won’t they just accept that some days with me are better without any confrontation?

    That’s not how relationships work. It’s important to them. If they are important to you, then you put in the effort. If you can’t put in the effort on some days, maybe spend some time apart. The second part of that quote is also pretty problematic. If you are not respectful to them, telling them that they should not confront you about it is really toxic.

    I’m autistic and depressed. I make similar mistakes. But I gotta ask myself the question: do I ask of my partner(s) things that I would myself not do? It seems that you are doing that. You’re asking them to ignore your behaviour, while you also ask of them to behave correctly towards you.






  • Mighty@lemmy.worldtoChat@lemmy.todayAbout guys feeling bad today
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    4 months ago

    Your statements are conflation very different things and mixing ideas. Figuring out who you are is not the same thing as having difficulties with dating.

    This line of thinking will get you in very weird niches of the internet.

    I also don’t agree 100% that this is a “young guys” problem. Alienation is universal. But (white) cis men will find a way to make it about themselves.

    I am also an older man. And yes I am depressed and often feel lonely and alienated. But the more I talk to people, the more I realise that this is an (intended) effect of hyper capitalism to separate us and to make us weak and lethargic.

    So, please make this into two or three separate questions.

    Short and “easy” answers will always be wrong