I’d like to start by saying, from you post, it sounds like you’re handling this fairly well and doing a great job about communicating your need. While it makes sense that you’d want to try polyamory at the same time you’re redefining your relationship with the person you were married to, both of the things you’re trying to do put immense strain on the relationship. Individually, both things are going to be highly emotional and require a lot of clear communication.

Polyamory is like sex, if it isn’t a “fuck yes” its a “no”. I don’t necessarily want want to say its hard, but it is a lot of work. Its a lot of talking about emotions, trying to coherently share how you feel about things that you may have never verbalized before, trying to understand other people’s experiences, and re-learning how relationships can be defined. Your partner may be scared but he may also know that it isn’t for him.

When talking about this new guy, is he polyamorous? That could stop the whole process right there. Thinking of that, and maybe the kids are calling it something different these days, look into NRE or New Relationship Energy. Many people have cheated or tried opening their relationships because they wanted a specific somebody else and when it didn’t turn out how they wanted they found themselves single. If this new person wasn’t in the picture, would you still be interested in polyamory? If your current partner started dating someone else and you were only dating him, how would you feel about it?

There is a lot going on, while I don’t know what your relationships look like, in your shoes I would either rebuild things with my current partner and look into maybe opening the relationship a few years into the future or pursue the new guy and start things off in an open relationship. Whatever happens, I hope that all of you end up with the best possible outcomes.

A whole list? That sounds like it would take somewhere between 3 seconds and 6 hours. Who has that kind of time?

The most important aspect is motivation to improve and do cool shit. That can, also, be said about a lot of professions. The best thing you can do is to find what is most interesting to you and spend at least a few hours a week learning about it or engaging with it. It could be new features of a language you know, a programming methodology that is new to you, learning about/contributing to a FOSS project you like, or anything else.

School and work will almost definitely force you to engage with the parts of development you don’t like, as well will give you an opportunity to engage with the parts of development you do like. It’s on you to keep yourself engaged and improving in your skills.

I think part of the issue is that it does act more like a search engine crawler than a traditional user. A lot of sites rely on real human traffic for revenue (serving ads, requests to sign up for Patreon, using affiliate links, etc) that gets bypassed by these bots. Hell in some cases the people running the sites are just looking for interaction. So while there is a spike in traffic, and potentially cost, the people running these sites aren’t getting the benefit of that traffic.

Basically these have the same issues as the summaries that Google does in their search results but, potentially, have much larger impact on the host’s bandwidth

It’s already here. I know someone who drank the Flavor-Aid and within the past year he’s starting using the T-slur and blamed Somalis when I offhandedly asked why traffic was so bad in a certain part of town (while there is a high Somali population here, the traffic problem is 100% poor city planning).

So fucking weird hearing that come out of the mouth of the Commie artist I used to go to punk shows with.

Oh man I forgot about those site! Back in the day my mom couldn’t afford to get me many new video games, so I’d download tons of demos.

I love the concept of Eat The Reich

I love the design of the physical book.

I started reading the actual book and it felt like the game designers were chastising me because I could potentially play the game in a different way than they envisioned it.

Hell yeah! I remember being at a show with mc chris, MC Lars, and Mega Ran when the 2016 election results were announced. They made a bad night bearable.

Hey they have like 5 games that you can play once a day. Those are kinda fun.

Can we start calling them Adobe Lovers?

Awesome thanks for the info on that.

I’ve had the opposite happen since switching to Windows 11. Multiple BSODs a week on both machines. Super frustrating.

Nothing wrong with examining potential issues for emerging technology before they become actual issues.

I don’t really like associating these people with the concepts presented in the Bible. Their understanding of Jesus, to me, feels about on par with a Republican political candidate’s understanding of Rage Against The Machine.

That or he’s slowing down mentally and it just took more time for him to get there.

Even with all of the examples here and that I’ve seen around, it’s still something I know I don’t fully grasp. I’m also confident this is the same kind of limitation that flat earthers use when they say “Well I can’t comprehend the Earth being a sphere, it just looks flat to me.”

Never thought I’d miss Ballmer, but here we are.

I’m getting daily or near daily BSODs since switch back from Debian. I was okay with Vista and 8, and maybe I’m just getting crankier as I get older, but I definitely am not a fan of the current direction Windows is taking.

Dreamweaver is still used? I used it a bit back in the day when Macromedia was around and shortly after Adobe got a hold of it. How does it work with the modern web? Does it work well with modern programming languages or is it still just a WYSIWYG HTML editor?

It’ll be a new tradition, every year we impeach the man and every year it produces no real change.