Seems like a red flag to me.

Maybe it’s not a deal-breaker in and of itself, but if you get many more of these, you probably want to cut your losses and move on.

Take it from an old guy who’s learned this shit the hard way.

In my experience it’s the case that if someone shows you that they are crazy or psychologically maladjusted, there’s very little that you can do about it as their romantic partner.

I don’t say that people can’t change, only that it’s almost never going to happen when they are already in a relationship with you and exhibiting weird and abusive behavior such as what you describe.

That said, in all honesty I think you might want to at least consider getting out now. The longer you wait, the more difficult it will be.

Again, I’m an old guy in his 50s and I have seen and been through some shit over the years. That doesn’t mean that I’m somehow magically “right,” but it does mean that I have some perspective on these things.

Take it for whatever you think it’s worth.

To conservative Americans the word “freedom” doesn’t mean the same thing that it means to you and I. That’s the simple short explanation for your confusion. It would require a much longer discussion to really unpack why that is and how it intersects with ideology.

And just like marijuana leads to heroin.