I think that to a narcissist empathy is also chaos and terrifying - it drives ‘irrational’ behavior in others that is not intuitive for them and works against their goals. It has to be absolutely infuriating to them.

Ooohhh I see, I am judgemental because your circumstances and stated preferences represent everyone in a hard place.

If you both could have and would have done it, it is completely reasonable to make that an expectation on everyone who struggles.

Your struggle was definitely representative of the worst circumstances bc you had 1 job and were a single parent – even though I mentioned how plenty of parents (including single ones) balance a FT job and gigs or a managerie of gigs. Or a FT job, single parenthood, and a disability. Or…

If you can’t see past your own life and circumstance, but want to proscribe what other people ‘should’ do (or no longer deserve your empathy), you are the one who is judgemental.

This is what every narcissist does – if you paint him with a bad (and deserved) brush like making him a convicted felon – well, his vindictiveness has to now make his enemies into felons too, whatever it takes.

You see how hard the propaganda went after Biden? Trying to convince as many tubes as possible that Biden and his son were like Mafia guys…

Every accusation by Trump is another fucking confession.

Wait - do you think that people who need food banks have a ton of free time for cooking clubs? Do you think it’s because they don’t work enough instead of what everyone knows which is that most people on the edge can’t make rent if they only have one job?

The jars likely cost more than the volume of produce it could store.

Also - have to arrange logistics for labor, supplies, and a kitchen to do the boiling in. Now that you are making a cooked food product, your kitchen also likely needs a license.

And insurance in case your rushed pickling operation creates any jars that go foul and anyone gets sick.

Also – ew. Not even the destitute want pickled cauliflower.

I’m guessing your Mom is now on ‘team Bear’.

I would consider that your Mom is the problem here except that the dudes lumped you in with being burned alive, and that suggests they are the PoS.

I feel like food that takes multiple days to prepare needs a cost of labor included in the estimated price per person

Unfortunately, I feel like these times call for explicit clarification in what should be obvious.

“…when Jews can live anywhere in the world without fear of persecution… for being Jewish” (but like everyone else can be held accountable as individuals for crimes including war crimes; that being Jewish doesn’t turn prosecution into persecution)

Cops do not like confronting actual criminals - criminals are dangerous. But they love to intimidate and force total acquiescence from regular people and excuse it by saying ‘its what we have to do ‘in case’ they are a criminal’.

Once criminals figure out that cops don’t want to confront them, those criminals learn to accommodate that. So they get worse. They figure out who they can rob and intimidate with impunity - and it’s mostly the poor. But also, they can break into middle class people’s cars, porch pirate, even B&E into homes, and cops don’t want to deal with that. So many people post on reddit bc cops won’t do a thing if, for example, a disabled person has their motorized wheelchair stollen, so people try to play detective on their own. Have a stalker or an ex who has credibly threatened your life? That might only help them catch that person if you are actually murdered.

Cops deter crime in wealthy areas, but the rest of us are on our own.

Fear of being caught might deter the naive from testing if they can get away with shit, but in reality, there is essentially a truce between cops and criminals, and if you know how to be too much work and risk to bother catching, a lot of what we consider ‘criminals’ don’t have a lot to worry about.

I have no idea but whether they did or not is irrelevant.

Protesting is constitutionally protected speech even for lawmakers, and has no bearing on their rights as elected officials to tour those facilities.

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That is how many cis men think, and we are talking about her risk going into a space where there frequently won’t be any other witnesses.

It is not a weird thing to say, it is a relevant point.

Even if you trade in, you aren’t leaving with a different car without a higher monthly payment unless you take a major downgrade in automobile. A lot of people can’t afford a higher payment right now.

Not who you asked, but I would happily give anyone the benefit of the doubt about having any sense of who Musk really is who bought their car before Musk bought twitter in 2023.

I know several people who are struggling who bought used Teslas so they could use them for Uber gigs.

You can argue that was not a smart idea and I’d agree. But vulnerable people are just people, and people are not always effective strategists.

I’m not up for punishing individuals, especially those who may have bought their cars well before Musk even bought twitter.

Well. Cybertrucks have only been out since his mask was off. I’m less concerned about vandalizing those.

Unfortunately, research on prisoners and concentration camp victims did produce new valuable medical information.

Most of the field of gynecology is based on experiments done on women slaves, where the “doctors” decided their victims conveniently didn’t have nerve endings.

Ethics throttles research.

But I am aghast at the thought that we should permit unethical research in the pursuit of, at the end of the day, greed.

And I say this as a professional scientist.

I can’t believe this conversation is even necessary.

“Why do Unions have to be considered Left?”

Tell me you have no idea about the history of labor rights without telling me…

I’ve seen my coworkers take paternity leave, which I think is like 8 weeks where I work.

Generally, they’ve staggered it with their spouse so that one parent is working and the other on child care, rather than both being out over the same window. Typically the Dad’s have taken their leave a couple months after the baby is born when Mom is returning to work. It keeps the baby out of daycare for as long as possible.

Ohhhh thank goodness.

Ok, then it’s just algorithm weirdness that I was shown the lower-voted post first. Phew!!