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Cake day: March 25th, 2025

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  • this is self-hosting local-first apps. There’s some local-first manifesto somewhere… one of their greatest ‘backend’ developments were CRDTs. The idea, is that the app can be turned off, synchronization can be interrupted and resumed, and so on. Those CRDTs allow people to use a text editor even when the client(s) are disconnected from the server. Of course, depending on how much your version differs, the merge conflict of diverging versions will be easier to solve…



  • I understand it. I have emigrated like your sister, only that my relationship with money is not the standard. Given the terrible inflation, I was used to live without any savings… I was making 500 USD per month, and spending everything. Some (poorer) friends perhaps only liked me because of that. I think it’s not like I was buying their love or anything… just didn’t mind. Tried to be quite stoic/ anarchist about it. But then, that’s me.

    The standard (capitalist) way to go about money is that it’s yours as your soul. It’s an essence. You don’t share. Unless when you do a gift (e.g. birthdays)… And, even couples split tabs. Also, the standard (patriarchal) way about money is that Males pay. So your brother in law is just spitting the misery cassette.

    We (commentators) can blame all we want on this people. It won’t make OP feel any better.

    OP: I think that a difficult talk with your sister and/or brother in law is due. Perhaps even a letter (you can also ask someone else to proofread/ help). Tell them how you feel… That way, they’ll know why you are not visiting so often. If they are really shitty about it and get mad or anything else other than comprehend, then that’s onto them.

    PS. Do they have kids? I am an uncle, and my niece is in another country. But thankfully, since I emigrated, I have a not-so-dissimilar salary to my brother so I can plan holidays together… I’m actually looking forward to that. It will be our first.


  • adry@piefed.socialtoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.worldWhat are the biases of Lemmy?
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    • The average age seems to be much higher. I joined when I was 16 and feel quite young unlike on other social media.

    Enjoy. Less echo bubbles. This goes in both directions, but mainly I value that younger people are able to be part of “mature conversations”. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t mean to underestimate your worldview or anything. It’s just that I’m remembering when I was around your age, the Internet was in a raw form, and it felt much like this. I was amazed to be able to talk with other adults and learn about their tastes on say books or movies when I joined some theme specific chat channel (via protocol IRC). At some point this changed drastically (e.g. Facebook connecting people from real life/ schools)… and I think nowadays TikTok, Insta, and for the most part, even YouTube are just centered around being young, pretty… very much like mainstream TV.








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    (Can I patronize? should be funny to point out that) ackshually, ducks are birds regardless of what they’re eating. Like, at all times. Same happens with Penguins, Ostrich, and… Mmm… other birds! gotcha!! Can’t say the same with Velociraptors :P


  • yeah… I don’t think that can be the “general rule” (e.g. law perspective) since socially men already have a lot of power… But I take your point as logic and fair: For sure, if a couple goes in that discussion, and he is clear that he won’t help at all, and she still goes along with it… then okay, maybe there’s some fairness to the situation. Specially if she knows, and can handle all by herself (e.g. has some rich parents)

    Anyway, I think the “her body her choice” motto is more about rape victims… so, I believe you are just stretching the situation. Saying “his wallet, his choice” is way too much. Sounds politically incorrect in all ways. Penis and Vagina had a consent, in your example, and that should be: her decision for abortion. You want to extend it to his decision on being present… (or, asking for the abortion.) I think this was a given until recently. Parenthood tests are available, and having a judge ‘force’ such thing is relatively new for ‘human history’ (thousands of years without it.) anyway… I am just ranting by now. tl;dr I don’t agree with you but whatever we are just random people on the internet.



  • adry@piefed.socialtomemes@lemmy.worldHow indeed
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    Ha! You got me there. I was just about to complain that none mentioned slaves, then saw the comment that did mention them (together with aliens) which is (imho) even worst than ignoring their suffering… but here you are, making my day by reminding me that those slaves had a “fair” (/s) pay for their suffering-work :P




  • Arriving to Galapagos islands, in just 2-3 blocks that we walked we got to see so much life! Not the giant tortoises though. But lizards, birds, and even some underwater sea life. A local fishermen was emptying his net, taking out some giant lobsters. It was the first time I saw these animals, apparently the usual are rather small in comparison and taste better, but in the ocean they can grow A LOT. These were easily the size of a shepherd’s dog…

    PS. Same trip, another experience(s) were snorkeling or diving :) if you love nature, I recommend going there…