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I’d give nearly anything to share a meal/drink/joint with Hidetaka Miyazaki.

Estoy aprendiendo español. Me encantaría practicarlo contigo (y inglés, si necesitas ayudar también).

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  • lady_maria@lemmy.worldtomemes@lemmy.world*Permanently Deleted*
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    my interpretation, at least:

    the trap is the government (the US’ in this example, perhaps) promising freedom of speech/unlawful search and seizure; but then terrorizing and inflicting violence upon those whose opinions they disagree with, but much more regularly and openly.

    Those trapped think they are protected from such retaliation because they have ignored/permitted/trivialized the systemic violence against marginalized groups that has been prevalent for centuries. They ignore the signs of their country’s propensity for fascism, and its intentional increase of brazenly hateful rhetoric and policies.

    But they are by no means exempt, and many won’t realize that until it’s too late.




  • Your question is a little unclear.

    If you’re talking about a debate, or needing to approach someone about something, it’s best to go in as prepared as possible and address any new arguments as they come.

    However, the other person has to feel like they’re being heard, understood, and (often) validated in some form—even if it’s not completely genuine—if there is ever a chance of getting them to change their mind.

    If this is a personal (or professional) conflict, though, be careful. To some people, it doesn’t matter what you say or how you say it, even if they’re in the wrong.








  • when I was in high school, I found a puppy (not totally sure, but I’m guessing a pit bull/lab mix) on the porch of my parent’s place a few days before Christmas. Best guess is someone dumped her off at the property, since it’s a farm in a relatively remote area.

    Anyway, I convinced my parents to let us keep her. Charlie was an extremely beautiful and sweet dog. But eventually I left for college and moved away.

    During the last few years of her life/she would act erratically around me when I’d visit. One second she’d be happy to see me, and the next she growled and snapped at me, and did this to others, too. I ended up having to avoid her entirely. Devastating, to say the least.

    We never found out why, despite visits to the vet. Dementia, perhaps.


  • lady_maria@lemmy.worldtoPolitical Memes@lemmy.worldthats why
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    If you actually look at at the graphs, they all show a pretty significant and stead drop over the decades.

    if you actually read my comment, I’ve already mentioned its decline. maybe you need a refresher. :)

    means at least 87% of the population don’t hold this view.

    thanks. believe it or not, I do know how percentages work. But at no point did I claim that most of the population feels this way.

    A group of people doesn’t have to be a majority to be statistically significant. If 13% of people suddenly woke up with arms growing from the tops of their heads, you’d be noticng them all the damn time, unless you’re a recluse.

    This absolutely has a real-world effect on who is voted into office, especially when you also consider which demographics vote. And consequently, less exposure to women in politics in office = a slower rate of acceptance of them.

    Not to mention, again, the rise of conservatism that is certainly not helping the matter.

    So while my experience is ancedotal, this shows

    Yeah so as I mentioned, I’ve had a different experience. Are you a woman? Do you frequently seek out discussions about/research on/history of women? gender studies? inequality?

    Because otherwise, there’s no wonder why you haven’t experienced what I have.

    Your experience doesn’t show anything. Neither does mine, because anecdotes are not, nor ever will be, valid evidence of anything useful in discussions about social or political issues.


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    Your life experiences don’t necessarily reflect those of everyone else, FYI. I’ve seen and heard this or some other "women are too emotional/illogical/irrational/cryptic/ect too many times.

    There are relatively recent studies/surveys, like this one (PDF) that suggest that a pretty significant portion of the population still feel women are too emotional to be in politics. 13% as of 2019 in that one.

    While I’d think—or at least hope—that this is still going down overall, the rise in conservativism is definitely slowing the decline.



  • I don’t necessarily believe that this trait is inherent to humankind; instead, I think it’s a product of cultures that value things like power and hyperindividualism.

    I do believe that there will always be (insecure) people who seek some level of power and/or wealth without regard for others. Whether or not they succeed would—I assume—depend on how that society views authority/skepticism/community/ect; if allowed, that would nudge society a little bit in that direction. And so on.

    Sadly, , some governments and corporations have spent millenia aquiring and wielding their vast power and wealth to cripple and exploit other societies that they can benefit from without too much pushback. Which obviously ravages those cultures, too, and often by design.

    So… it’s a little hard to know for certain what is truly in our nature.




  • The first thought that came to mind is, why would your uncle lie about that? I can’t imagine he would have something to gain from it.

    I would tell her that, regardless of which of them (or both) were truly “bad” people, they both likely did bad any number of bad, abusive, unforgivable things. Neither she nor her brother ever had any control over it. Your grandparents made their choices, as adults, and failed to properly care for their children. Period. All she can really do now is focus on doing what’s best for herself and those around her.

    I would strongly suggest that she go see a therapist to discuss all of this, if she hasn’t already. It WILL be harmful for her mental health if she continues to ruminate about this or keeps cycling through the what-ifs without having ways to cope or focus attention elsewhere. Talking to you (or other family/friends) about it can only help so much.