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Cake day: June 24th, 2023

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  • Here is the quote, I had to click through a couple links to get to it, really they need to be putting his quotes front and center because by paraphrasing they make him sound more nuanced and reasonable than he is.

    “The FAA diversity push includes focus on hiring people with severe intellectual and psychiatric disabilities. That is amazing,” Trump said, claiming the FAA wanted people “with severe disabilities, the most underrepresented segment of the workforce, and they want them in and they want them - they can be air traffic controllers.” Asked how he could blame diversity, equity and inclusion hiring for the crash, Trump said, "because I have common sense.”







  • I think it comes from the idea that regardless of how we think of ourselves, most of what we do follows our own long term habits and the models we have identified with, often from a young age. A person can even believe they are rejecting the past or their parent’s influence and then behave exactly the same without noticing or even rationalizing afterward how this was not exactly what it looked like.

    Your brain’s best trick is to make you think your view of the world is complete and that you are using all the powers of your free reason, when in fact you only have a narrow slice of human experience behind you and are often responding to circumstances before you have even become fully aware of them or of your alternatives. Your mind fills in the blanks to support your view of yourself.

    People learn a behavior because it is safe or effective in a certain condition of life, and then just keep using it even when it isn’t suitable out of fear of changing something that works, however badly, or lack of imagination, or because they have identified with it as a part of their personality that they need to protect from real or imagined self-erasing forces. It feels weird and wrong and self-betraying in the moment to change how you do things, only afterwards you can maybe see the good side.

    You care about these people, and it shows care to confront them when they are doing things they have said they want to avoid. But it will be a matter of many such confrontations and maybe better just saying Wow, that’s not what I would have done! I guess I’m just ____ and prefer to _____ in that situation. You can reinforce some alternative options they might not have seen a lot of modeling for and in the future these options may come to mind with greater force in the actionable moment. Also, take notice when they do things well and see if you can figure out why they are more clear-headed in those cases. It will help your own feelings to see some bright spots.

    Just to make this even longer… For my part I see this when I go to the doctor’s. I always find myself very meek and even stupid in a doctor’s office, for personal history reasons, but the solution for me is not to give myself a stern talking to about why I should stand up for myself and think critically about this important stuff. Rather, I tell myself to “channel” my old friend, who is very salty about the whole medical establishment, and just hearing his voice in my head helps keep me properly engaged through the appointments and not mentally bowing the whole time. Without his real example, I’m not sure any rational arguments would be enough to change how I actually behave. I couldn’t even visualize myself doing it.

    But, obviously I’m not super sure about free will, so I’m interested to see what other people say.