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  • Aehhhh…

    You can think someone is a famous narcissist, and not be jealous of their fame or talent or confidence at all.

    And, there are also a great number of artists who… eschew fame, have comparitively little public identity or persona.

    … you probably just haven’t heard about as many of them though.

    Because they don’t really like to ‘do’ marketing, as much as they like to ‘do’ art, so you tend to have to actually go looking for them.

    EDIT:

    An expansion on the first concept:

    To clarify the first point a bit, I’m pretty darned confident about my own abilities, ideas and opinions.

    But I don’t care at all to be widely or broadly recognized or praised, I in fact very much prefer the opposite of that, I like my peace and privacy, all I really need is a small amount of validation from a few people, every once in a while.

    Most of the time, I can self-validate, while also doing my best to also have a healthy level of self-criticality, sanity checking myself, admitting fault when I’ve been too bull-headed.

    … An actual narcissist seemingly cannot do any of that. They need, like, literally need to be constantly reaffirmed, praised, paid attention to, seemingly have their own cult of personality based around them.

    They don’t seem to be able to actually be self-confident, in a self-contained way, they instead just pantomime, fake, front, act as if they are supremely confident, but its an act, not the real thing.

    Inside, they’re Patrick Bateman, a mask of a charismatic personality wrapped around a tumultuous void of nothing, that almost always eventually collapses in on itself.

    So… I’m not jealous of the confidence of a narcissist, because I have the real thing.

    I actually pity them and their inability to … auto-self-validate.

    I’m also not jealous of their fame, I don’t want that at all, sounds awful.

    While I do appreciate the talent some particular narcissist may have at some particular thing… I’m not envious, jealous, made insecure or made to feel lacking in some way, by not having that level of skill.

    I just appreciate and respect that someone has that level of skill.








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    Yeah I normally don’t go around just posting basically ads for products rofl.

    But… this thing… it seems like a genuinely useful and also beautiful book.

    And even though I have most of my ‘books’ in digital form…

    Well, this would be the kind of thing you would want an actual physical backup of.



  • I found a toaster oven that… was going to be thrown out, by someone in my building, … because the handle thingy had detached from the door/window.

    … All you have to do is slide it back on where it had been glued on, and open and close it gently, its fine.

    Gave it a thorough cleaning, ran it through some test cycles… it works perfectly.

    Only a week or so ago, I figured out it has an air fryer mode if you just turn one of the dials all the way.

    Apparently it has a whole powered vent and airflow system as well.

    … air fryers are fucking magic, basically.




  • … Imagine saying this regarding a male teacher aged 30/31 who groomed a 15 year old and 16 year old student, and got the 15 year old student pregnant.

    (This woman got pregnant by the 15 yo student she groomed… and she had that child.)

    “Oh I dunno, I guess some people are attracted to kids! 🤷 Its a bad thing to do though.”

    What the fuck.

    No, its a lot more than just a bad thing, merely immoral actions. Its three innocent lives massively damaged, thrown off course, poetentially fucked up for life, because of the manipulative and selfish actions of a person in a position of trust and authority absuing that trust and authority.

    And yeah its three lives, not two, because there’s no way this doesn’t massively negatively affect the life of her baby.

    https://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/real-life/news-life/former-maths-teacher-rebecca-joynes-banned-from-teaching-after-grooming-two-school-boys/news-story/0fe2070f15e4694d585491d7ea183cdb

    … this woman is a serial sexual predator, who pursued the second relationship after being investigated for the first one and more or less getting away with a slap on the wrist.

    Thats not just ‘immoral actions’, it’s basically downright evil, which, according to the judge of the most recent trial, was carried out with “breathtaking gall” and “astonishing arrogance.”

    Downplaying the magnitude of how fucked up this is, is itself fucked up.