It might be different for other distros, but for me on MX Linux, I just click on the .deb and it opens a shell with a root prompt and installs the file automatically. Easy peasy.

including your allegedly heinous example of bonding with a widow because you also lost your SO! Can you imagine?! Humans bonding over a common experience?

I used that example, because I am a widow myself. My fiance passed a few years ago. I don’t mean to imply people do this out of malice, just that they try to “make you feel better” by relating to your grief, but unfortunately grief doesn’t work like that. When I am grieving, more than anything I’m just looking for someone to listen and understand, not try and tell me “it’s normal” or “this happens to everyone, don’t feel so bad”, because as genuine and heartfelt that sentiment is it is not helpful. I’m not immune to it either, I met a man on the bus who’d lost his daughter, and my first reaction was to mention my fiance rather than listen and let him let it out. I realized what I was doing and reflected about it later, I saw how he reacted and how sharing that type of pain doesn’t mitigate it, what you really want is to talk to someone without comparing tragedy. There is a time and place for that, but not in those moments of grief and pain.

Yes, I mentioned that explicitly in my comment, did you read all of it? I never said that it was okay for that type of thing to happen to men, and that we should talk about it. And just like with letting women have the floor, we should allow men to have it when the convo is centered on that issue. I don’t see what the issue with giving each issue their own time and space is, we need to have focus if we’re talking about two very different, yet similar scenarios, in order to have some kind of real way to find a solution proper to both.

Of course everyone has varying experiences, I’m not trying to flatten that fact. When I say “typical” I’m refering to the fact that these types of incidents are more prevailent as an experience by women under the subjegation of a patriarchical culture that gives males a disproportionate amount pf privilege and status in such a society. I myself mentioned in my original post that it isn’t right for this to happen to men any more than women, but I think it’s disingenuous to claim these are equivalent experiences. I mentioned minorities and prejudice, and I don’t think it’s unreasonable to state that racism against white people, while it does exist, is a much different thing then what is experienced by minorities. Trying to create a false dichotomy equating male’s experience of sexual harrassment with women’s undermines the severity of the problem by trying to act like it’s a gender neutral issue, it isn’t. We can address both, but it would be wrong to conflate both as the same, we can draw parallels and definitely see lessons from each’s perspective, but we can’t paint both with a broad brush if we want to address what is the core issue with both.

I’ve seen the worst from both sides. Everyone with either a testicle or an ovary can sit right the fuck down.

But that’s just it, right? Your experience is an outlier in the typical male experience. I myself have never experienced those kinds of things, but I am sorry you have.

The problem is, that women experience these types of things far more than men do. It is wrong that it happens to males as well, but that type of sentiment (hey, guys have it bad too!) is exactly why the slogans “All Lives Matter” versus “Black Lives Matter” is a huge deflection on a problematic issue.

Sure, all lives matter, but when there is a disproportionate amount of black people having actions happen that put their lives in danger, re-framing the argument only serves to obscure that reality even further.

I think it’s important to realize there is a time and place for grievance, and when it is someone trying to relate their struggle, it isn’t helpful to mention “well yeah, I have it bad too”. Imagine saying that to a widower: “you lost your wife? I lost my husband and my son!” Comparing burdens does nothing to address the suffering of another, and it doesn’t bring to light the scope of the issue when it is a group that experiences more adversity than another.

The fact of the matter is, we live in a male-dominated society, and as such we experience a much, much different reality than women do. Same with minority ethnic groups. And to marginalize those already marginalized groups even further by bringing up our (very real at times) struggles feels like a slight to them.

I do believe that there is a very real need to talk about toxic attitudes held towards things that happen towards men, which is important because it is mainly due to our status, these issues are all too often swept under the rug or minimized because those things “don’t happen to men”. That is wrong, and is a very real problem.

Do what? Remind me of the babe

No worries! I’m right there with you. I’ve been juggling a lot lately.

Pico-8 is fantastic! One of my favorite projects on itch. I just beat the Pico-8 version of Celeste, and Celeste 2 as well. There’s so many great hidden gems on Pico. My favs are Celeste (of course) Pinballvania, Stabbycrabby, Driplogic and Puzzles of the Paladin. I’m always finding interesting stuff through the random section with splore. I’m thinking about learning lua and fiddling around with making a game on Pico someday.

Definitely! It’s always nice to meet like-minded folks, especially across a range of interests. I’m also into tabletop roleplaying (actually created a new community for one shot rpgs here: https://lemmy.ml/c/Every_Post_Is_An_RPG) and love reading (literary stuff, but also genre stuff at times, reading a Discoworld novel by Pratchett currently called The Truth).

Maybe you can sticky a general discussion thread, even if it’s seldom used, at least it can facilitate some discussion, especially if there is bandes dessinees chat that isn’t thread worthy.

In 2001, at 16 years old, I snagged a brand new Dreamcast with five or six games for dirt cheap from a local game store. The DC had already been discontinued at that point, the PS2 was about to launch or just did, and retailers were just offloading the Dreamcast merch. Shenmue was one of those games, and was the game I ended up spending the most time with. There really just wasn’t anything like it, it was this epic action story of loss and revenge with this sprawling open world with all kinds of sidequests, mini-games and interesting NPCs to explore. The most painful thing for me at the time was the damn cliffhanger at the end, and I never ended up getting a chance to play Shenmue 2 (I think it only made it’s way stateside on Xbox). It was definitely a memorable, once-in-a-lifetime experience. There were flaws, to be sure, but they were easily overlooked due to the expansive, ambitious nature of the game.

When big Tech, especially the biggest video platform in the world, does something like this it is relevant to tech. The better question is, if you do support lgbtq+ people, why the public freakout about mentioning a far reaching tech policy, by one of the biggest (if not THE biggest) tech company in the world, on a tech sub?

nazis and fascists, without ever knowing what those words even mean

I am Jack’s complete lack of self awareness

Sure, if your issue is that it’s okay for corporations to remove protections for hate speech towards marginalized groups, then yes, go get bent. This kind of false equivalence between normalizing hate and ostraciszing progressives for speaking out against oppression is EXACTLY what we’re fighting against. What in the hell is the ‘rhetoric’ do you disagree with? Having empathy for lgbtq+ people? Jesus. If so, this is definitely not the place for you.

Wow. There’s a huge disparity between the brows on those two. No matter how blurry the first pics are, the thickness of Luigi’s brows would be noticeable. The person in that camera footage definitely doesn’t have thick eyebrows like Luigi :/

Good stuff. Take a look at Ultimate Success next if you end up enjoying that album. Really anything by them is great, but Ultimate Success is their newest, I believe, so you can see where they are at musically now.

I think a lot of that has to do with the fact that independent comic creators are spread out over multiple publishing companies and not just a few independent imprints. You have Drawn and Quarterly, Fantagraphics and a whole host of others that publish smaller, indie graphic novels. There are also a lot of traditional book publishers that publish graphic novels now too. There’s a lot out there, but it’s not under any one umbrella like it was back in the 80s/90s.

Right on, that’s good on them. I was honestly disappointed to learn that they were deniers years ago, which definitely effected my ability to watch the show afterwards. I’ll have to check out the episode when I can.

Oh, I didn’t realize they’d revisited the gag. Thanks for the head’s up.

That’s exactly it, I almost used the good cop/bad cop analogy for my original comment. It’s been glaringly obvious that the dems are just a pressure-release valve for people’s anger for some time now. They never live up to any of the expectations that people have for them. At this point it is a cruel Lucy pulling the football away from Charlie Brown facade. And democrat voters eat it up every time.

Now the biggest sentiment from liberals is “this is your fault, if only you’d voted for the dems”, when it is largely irrelevant if voters do. The dems are just a friendlier looking version of a corporate controlled imperialistic government. The sooner the people realize this, the sooner we can actually mobilize people against the real enemies of the people, which is corporate control of both political parties. Until class-consciousness manifests itself on a much larger scale, we’ll continue to play these stupid corporate controlled dem vs repub games and win more stupid prizes.

It’s this rhetoric that plays perfectly into the class divide that the corporate asshats want everyone to fall for. “It’s your fault for not voting for the other corporate shill party!” Disregarding the fact that the main difference is one party is just mask off, and the other is mask on fascist. As many people rightly point out, the dems are controlled opposition. If they weren’t there would literally have been much more fight and pushback from them for the four years before Trump 2.0 (especially since they knew it was coming faaar in advance) rather then the milquetoast response we got from them, this was made quite obvious by the dems moving right in many policies and stumping with Cheney of all people. If these people really gave a shit about appealing to their constituents, they would’ve listened to the damn voters. This is all beside the point as modern American voting IS NOT determined by the voting public, but much more powerful interests. If you really believed your vote was effecting something in this, or any other election in the past 20+ years, I have a bridge to sell you in the Sahara.

Kudos. That got an unexpected, but much needed, hearty chuckle out of me :D

That episode is commonly misunderstood. I too had always thought they were lampooning climate change deniers, but Matt and Trey were actually poking fun of Al Gore and An Inconvient Truth as alarmist. They’ve since apologized for the episode, but it’s wild that it’s so often confused for satirizing the very thing it was mocking. For me I just assumed that Matt and Trey wouldn’t be deniers so it never occured to me until I found out their true intention and now it’s pretty cringy to watch that episode since it’s a lot more obvious. Here’s an article about it:

https://www.esquire.com/entertainment/tv/a25127458/south-park-climate-change-manbearpig-apology-season-22-episode-7/

Absolutely.

I try to avoid commercial games, or at least big studio produced ones, as much as I can. I play mostly indie games from itch.io or from GOG (not a fan of the Steam monopoly). I also play (via roms through emulators) a lot of retro games from the late 80s/early 90s. I find that older games eschew the more predatory and exploitive practices that many modern games use (microtransactions, DLC, loot-boxes, always online etc). Basically I try to stay as anti-capitalist as I can in my choice of games. And if that means I miss out on some games, so be it, there is always something to play. Hell, there’s more good games out there that I could play in several lifetimes, no point in supporting the games that feed the capitalistic beast.